For those who haven’t read my “About Me” page, firstly: shame on you. Second, I identify as non-binary, but have been actively in the process of transitioning to female for about three years now. That’s hormone therapy and the whole nine yards. In this time, it’s not so unusual or frightening. So why announce anything?
Because, when I look at transition stories, I see a lot of tragedy. I wanted to counter the usual narrative by emphasizing how positive my transition has been. I’m specifically talking about the sociological aspects; I’m not going to regale you with tales of my medical history.
I work in a very sociologically-progressive, but politically-conservative field. It’s littered with barely recovered Bible-beaters, angry divorcees, and ass-backwards bureaucrats. But even I was surprised (and wonderfully so) at the reception I got when I announced my name change and upcoming transition in the workplace. Like 90% of my coworkers – and those in the same field but at different sites – were amazingly positive, congratulatory, and some downright exuberant about it. I’m a cynical bitch, and I would have said it was just something they were doing because they had to, by law.
But a month later it’s continued. Yeah a few whisper with each other and a few won’t look me in the eye, but I get the sense that those are people who are struggling with the idea of such a dramatic change in the first place, not that they have something in particular against me.
My partner (heavens bless the woman) has been a beacon of strength and positivity for me. Instead of running for the hills like I figured anybody in her situation would.
No threats. No slashed tires. No vandalized home or workspace.
I know I can’t be alone in this. I know other transpeople are experiencing their coming out as a massively positive and well-received event. I also know how lucky I am to be in this situation; I do not take it for granted.
Believe what you will about our American society (and, hey, I’m not going to go to a NASCAR race in Texas and expect there not to be problems. There remain bastions of other thinking), but it isn’t all doom and gloom. We’re not all snowed under with tragedy.
Smile, my fellow transpeople. The changes keep coming. And we will thrive.